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122. Considerations for a Good Life

18 Sep

I recently met a young man who was troubled and was dealing with difficult decisions. When I think about him I imaging how much better his life could be if he did not make the same mistakes that I have made. There is so much to learn. I have listed below many of the important factors that one should consider.

1. In many interactions, it is better to ask questions than make assertions. An assertion implies that the recipient is unaware of something and deficient in some way. For example, a dental assistant said to a patient “your teeth are yellow.” That would imply that his house does not contain mirrors, that his vision is deficient, or that he is stupid. Better to ask “would you agree that your teeth are yellow?”

2. As a general rule, it is always good to tell the truth. However, there are specific circumstances where saying something true, can be hurtful or destructive. A communication must be evaluated, comparing its negatives against the value of “truth.” A husband may have thoughts about a sexy secretary, but truthfully describing these thoughts to our wife could ruin a marriage. Everything you say to another person must be evaluated.

3. Dealing with a complicated situation usually does not have a quick and simple solution. The most successful people consider all the possible outcomes for each important decision variation considered. Also to be considered is relevant history and the opinions of experts.

4. Learning how to find truth, and evaluating the truthfulness of a statement, is extremely important. We are lucky today, to have a resource like the Internet to help us with this. After your formal education is completed, it can be beneficial to continue with informal learning. Try to keep an open mind in most areas.

5. For your entire life, frequently stretch the major muscles of your body. Consider carefully what you eat (“you are what you eat”). Get 8-hours of sleep every night. Exercise regularly. Good health habits make a big difference.

6. I can say from bitter experience: if at all possible, never make an enemy. Learn to assert yourself in a polite way. The rules seem simple, but this is a very difficult area and attention to this is critical to success. Think about how to respond in difficult situations. Many people you don’t like can be helpful in some way. Keep the doors open.

7. Doctors, dentists, etc are necessary for a healthy life. Try to choose them carefully (not easy). Most of what they say is true, but as you further your education you will find that some statements are controversial and some good ideas are omitted.

8. All of the above is serious, but a good part of life should be fun.

This whole page is an over-simplification and certainly incomplete, but still may be helpful. Every concept could be discussed and clarified in several pages, and for each rule, there could be exceptions. I hope that this piece is at least thought-provoking.